What it is like to be cheated upon in a relationship?

Quora link to the answer…


Alright, so this beta boy got “swindled” by his girlfriend of two years who backstabbed him and went on to marry another guy while (he says) she promised him she’d end up with him.

I have three words for betaboy…

kek kek kek

Alright, alright… here goes…

By this time, we had completed two years of our togetherness and were cruising very well for a future together.

Two years of blue balls, that is. It becomes evident later, but this betaboy wasn’t getting any.

One sudden day, a guy drops to see her, the same guy chosen by her parents to be her future partner.

So she was “with” betaboy Ankit Vani for two years, but she didn’t tell her family about it. And from the looks of things, she wasn’t getting her freak on with him either.

This is most likely an Indian girl we’re talking about. The kind that think about marriage and growing old together the minute you say “Hi”.

But somehow betaboy believes he was in a relationship.

Betaboy Ankit Vani… it was all fiction bro.

Displeased by this suddenness, she showed anger towards her parents for not informing her in advance and taking things forward without her consent. When asked, she told me that her mother has asked her to meet him as a friend and then they will deny their offer.

Well, Indians are fucked up. I got little else to add to that. heh

She met him, he was a pretty rich banker who was wealthy and showed up to be a good guy in front of her.

betaboy tell #2: Ankit Vani betaboy believes rich banker was pretending to be a good guy. In betaboy’s fantasy world, he’s the good guy, while the rich, good-looking, attractive man is actually the bad guy.

Their numbers got exchanged

And yet betaboy didn’t dump her immediately. That’s betaboy tell #3.

Gentlemen, if a girl’s is in love with you, she’ll go out of her way and everyone’s way to avoid exchanging numbers and so on. If she does, she really isn’t in love with you.

and then began the cheating part.

Only in betaboy’s mind.

She showed disinterest after meeting him, told bad things about him…

Assuming that’s even true… and that’s one hell of an assumption… what else would she do betaboy creep? Tell you how she’s planning her escape from your needy, clingy flatulence?

…and said that her parents are forcing her but she is strong.

Notice the inconsistencies in betaboy Ankit Vanti, SBI employee’s fictional re-imagination.

The same parents who told her at the outset that she could just see a guy and then politely indicate disinterest have suddenly become monsters who now force her daughter to bang for life a guy whom she dislikes.

What really happened is that either she tried to get rid of betaboy and he wouldn’t give up… or she tried to let him down politely but upon his boneheaded insistence, she decided to play him for shits and giggles.

They started chatting over texts…

Girls don’t chat unless they want to. Were her parents forcing her to chat with him too? lololol

…he was already floored down by her beauty and she seemed to have not liked that guy at all.

Here’s a tip for you betaboy Ankit Vani, SBI employee…

Girls are turned on by men who express their lust for them.

You were the creep talking about love and togetherness, and he was likely the strong, powerful man openly expressing how much harder (heh) life had gotten to be sleeping without her.

By this time, I had appeared in my SBI Mains and was waiting for my results. I cleared SBI Mains and was waiting for my interview dates. I went to Bhopal for my interview, came out of the room…

aka betaboy Ankit Vani was unemployed at that time.

…and called her since it went pretty well. I was hopeful of a selection and wanted to meet her since she was in the town.

Notice how she didn’t really suggest a meetup. betaboy Ankit Vani did.

Also, he had no one else to call. kek.

35 missed calls, 30 messages, 3 hours of wait and I left Bhopal with sadness wrapped over my face.

Super creep alert…

35 missed calls? 30 messages? All within 3 hours?

Dear Lord did the girl make a wise choice!!!

The last time I sent a dozen messages in a day was when a friend had been in an accident.

Gentlemen… don’t do this.

If you call someone, and they don’t respond immediately, go do something else. Don’t be like betaboy creeper Ankit Vani, SBI employee.

They’ll either call you back, or they won’t. Either way, once you hit the ball out of your court, don’t hit another one if they do nothing with the one you sent their way the first time.

Couple of days later, she revealed that she is getting married with the same guy.

Color me surprised.


She told me that she was pressurized by her family to do so and was swear in by her grandparents for this guy. I believed in her story, she kept on blabbering all the stories and I kept believing.

betaboy Ankit Vani, like all others of his ilk, fancies himself a hero of a romantic comedy, or better yet, romantic tragedy.

She told that she will break the alliance very soon, would reveal everything and I was kept hanging for few more days.

betaboys like Ankit Vani, SBI employee thrive on hope. That’s all they have anyway. They don’t have… like… options. Or choices. Or other things to do. So they linger. And languish. And wait. Hopefully.

More drama, verbal abuse and some well-crooked stories in coming days.

Dude, the message is the medium. Often.

In this case, she told you. Outright. She was going to marry the other man. You should have moved on. You didn’t. Because you had no other options. Because you’re a betaboy.

Then came the twist.

Notice betaboy’s penchant for dramatizing his life in hopes of portraying what is mundane as something that’s extraordinary.

betaboys live boring lives. Which is why they don’t have options. But that somehow doesn’t prevent them from becoming (the only) true believers in their own fantasies.

One fine day…

The love of your life is trapped by her very own parents and is being forced to marry someone else. Yet you have a fine day?

…I happened to visit her best friend’s bank for some personal work where she was employed and had no idea about our relationship at all. During conversation, it drifted towards my girlfriend and then she showed me something which swept away the floor beneath me, I still feel those nervy cramps in my body and a rush of anger and despondency crept in all over my face.

I’ll just disregard betaboy’s blatant disregard for the language of Shakespeare and Milton and chalk it up to his desiness. But SBI is fucked!!! And so are their customers.

She showed me a part of it, rest I took it on my own to know the truth. They had a WhatsApp group of three female friends and she was very happy about the marriage. In fact, she was taking a lot of interest in first night rituals, asking for suggestions on her apparels and fascinating about the gala wedding that was going to happen.

The girl was fantasizing about her “first night rituals”. In other words, she was a virgin. betaboy Ankit Vani wasn’t getting any.

That day, I found out that whatever she told me was a pure lie.

Maybe, and if so, I don’t blame her.

But chances are you totally misread her signals and misinterpreted her words and actions.

Their meeting was arranged after informing her in advance, her parents had met the guy and she had given her green signal to meet him. If this was not enough, she showed extreme interest in that guy and when she revealed things to me, it had already been a month.

Which I had seen coming right at the offset of your post betaboy.

The day I was informed about her decision to marry him, tickets, garden and everything was booked and I was foolishly swindled by her. Well, if that was not the end of it, she had spoken negatively about me in front of her friend and termed me as a guy who asked her out and she denied the offer at the outset.

I’d be hardpressed to disbelieve her.

Moral of the story:

Don’t be like betaboy Ankit Vani, SBI employee.